visual laurel 2022-06-28 09:54:44

rowark:

PSA, as we enter a recession (or are already in one, depending on who you ask)…

now is NOT the time to join a multilevel marketing business.

it’s never the time (because they’re pyramid schemes) but now is ESPECIALLY not the time, and they’re gonna be out in full force trying to recruit people, especially if we start seeing widespread lay offs

If someone wants to offer you a “job opportunity” but won’t tell you the name of the company, RUN

if a company requires you to purchase a starter kit, FUCKING RUN

if someone invites you to an “opportunity call” or otherwise pitches this “opportunity” to you, and it’s just a whole bunch of love-bombing and motivational speaking, RUN

if you cannot “rank up” in the company without recruiting more people to your team (aka downline), RUN

if you already joined one, cut your losses and quit now. seriously

if your friends/family join them, do not buy from them, even if it’s just to support them… buying from people who join MLMs gives them false confidence that they will succeed, and it keeps them in longer, and ultimately they will lose more money, and probably damage a lot of their relationships along the way

99% of people either make no money, or worse, LOSE money, in multilevel marketing. They’re scams and commercial cults and the “recession proof industry” marketing campaigns are already well underway, especially in MLMs that are currently on the brink of collapse (like Monat)

don’t be fooled. there is no opportunity. it’s not a job. it’s a scam

(also, watch out for their alternate names… network marketing and social selling are just synonyms for multilevel marketing.)

Eta: if you’re not sure if a company is an MLM, Google it. There’s an entire database online for this. Search “is [X] an mlm” and if it is, you’ll find a wealth of information about how their scams work.

thank you for coming to my ted talk

Know who you are dealing with. If they won’t give you a straight answer, you can’t trust them.

If a stranger DMs you asking you to be a partner and wants you to represent their brand, to be their partner or collaborator, don’t be flattered. If you don’t know or use their product, why are they asking you?

Are you a social media influencer with tens of thousands of followers? If you are, are you willing to throw it all away by risking your hard earned reputation promoting a scam? At the very least a reputable company will offer you a contract and pay you in money, not empty promises or free samples.

Do you have 50 or even hundreds of people in your contact list? Maybe even a few thousand you’ve attracted with your wit, creativity or humour? Don’t sacrifice your reputation with family, friends and contacts promoting a scam.

It’s one thing to tell your friends about a good product you like, and another to be suckered into shilling for fly by night matchstick men, helping them take advantage of people who trust you.

Sometimes a company you deal with, or one selling things you are already posting about, will approach you and offer samples they want you to test and review for your social network. This is not the same thing as a scam, but if you agree you’ll find yourself working hard for those “free” samples. If it takes you hours to write a review of a ten dollar product, are you really ahead of the game? Maybe, maybe not. Only you can decide.

laura's mathom house 2022-05-02 09:05:03

cryptonature:

Learning to delete/mute/block before a negative comment takes root in your mind is a modern survival skill. If you’re going to wander the overgrown countryside of the internet, you need to develop a quick eye for ticks.

It’s deeply tempting to respond to the “well, actually,” to the cruel assumption, to the unjust accusation, to the odious viewpoint. It’s tempting because you’re defaulting to the etiquette of dinner conversation. This isn’t a dinner conversation. Someone is shouting at you from a moving car. Turn away.

books-and-cookies:Hey, hey remember that it’s okay to feel like you’re growing out of books or…

books-and-cookies:

Hey, hey remember that it’s okay to feel like you’re growing out of books or authors you loved. Even if those books or authors really had an impact on you. We’re constantly changing as individuals and with that, our tastes change as well. It’s okay to grow out of things. That doesn’t mean you’re betraying them or yourself - it just means that you’re an ever changing human and liking those things was a step in your evolution.

At the same time, it’s okay to NOT grow out of certain books or authors. It’s okay to still be excited over someone’s new book, even if they published 20 before it. It’s okay to still be reading YA, for example, even if you’re way past the “target audience” for this genre. 

I’ll repeat something that I’ve said times and times before: you do you. Read what makes you happy and fulfilled and what brings you joy. Always unapologetically. 

laura's mathom house 2021-12-21 16:14:39

mental–healthawareness:

For everyone with social anxiety, this is a reminder that you don’t have to be perfect in your interactions with others; you just have to be kind and that’s literally it. That’s all that’s necessary of you. You don’t need to say the perfect thing or anticipate what they would want you to say or even exude confidence if you can’t.

Social anxiety tells us that we have to be perfect in in our social interactions, but no one is. Social anxiety sets us up for a level of expectation in our social interactions that we have no choice but to fail at, and then fall into a cycle of self-hate for failing and striving even harder for perfection.

“As this world becomes increasingly ugly, callous and materialistic, it needs to be reminded that the…”

“As this world becomes increasingly ugly, callous and materialistic, it needs to be reminded that the old fairy stories are rooted in truth, that imagination is of value, that happy endings do, in fact, occur, and that the blue spring mist that makes an ugly street look beautiful is just as real a thing as the street itself.”

- Elizabeth Goudge.

i-will-physically-fight-you: I had a conversation with a friend about a year ago where I was…

i-will-physically-fight-you:

I had a conversation with a friend about a year ago where I was expressing my concern about not doing more than I thought I should be doing. And her response to that has stuck with me to this day: “You’re a human being, not a human doing. It’s okay to just be sometimes.” 

And honestly? I think that’s something all of us, especially now, need to hear.

sauntering-vaguely-downwards: Now, I’m not saying romantic relationships are inferior, or that…

sauntering-vaguely-downwards:

Now, I’m not saying romantic relationships are inferior, or that they’re useless, or that you being in one or that you shipping some characters romantically is Bad or something off the walls like that. What I’m saying is that two people (or characters, since we’re talking shipping here) can be just as devoted to each other, love each other just as deeply, mean just as much to each other while being in a platonic relationship. The end point of caring about someone doesn’t have to be romance.

Friendship isn’t a stepping stone between strangers and romantic partners, it’s a different path. And you can follow that path as deep into the wood as a romantic one if you want, and neither is inferior to the other, they just have different views.

sandersstudies: Me, realizing I let cups pile up on my dresser again: my dearest princess is so…

sandersstudies:

Me, realizing I let cups pile up on my dresser again: my dearest princess is so frequently desirous of water in the late eve that she hath permitted her goblets to accumulate… dear me, I must have these cleared before the duchess arrives for tea.

sandersstudies:

Sometimes I really beat myself up for having a messy room/house and I get too upset to actually clean because what’s the point, I’ll just make it messy again?

Anyway, I’ve started countering this by pretending I’m a long-suffering maid for a sweet yet untidy princess, tasked with preparing her royal quarters for visitors. It is difficult work but the thought that she loves me and soon we will flee into the forest in disguise before her upcoming wedding (to a wealthy but unloving duke) keeps me motivated.

“Things don’t have purposes, as if the universe were a machine, where every part has a useful…”

“Things don’t have purposes, as if the universe were a machine, where every part has a useful function. What’s the function of a galaxy? I don’t know if our life has a purpose and I don’t see that it matters. What does matter is that we’re a part. Like a thread in a cloth or a grass-blade in a field. It is and we are. What we do is like wind blowing on the grass. […] We’re in the world, not against it. […] The world is, no matter how we think it ought to be. You have to be with it. You have to let it be.”

- Ursula Le Guin, The Lathe of Heaven.

andromeda3116: So let’s talk about the Lost Generation. This is the generation that came of…

andromeda3116:

So let’s talk about the Lost Generation.

This is the generation that came of age during WWI and the 1918 flu pandemic. They witnessed their world collapse in the first war that spread around the globe, and they – in retrospect, optimistically – called it the “war to end all wars”. And that war was a quagmire. The trenches on the Western Front were notoriously awful, unsanitary and cold and wet and teeming with sickness, and bloody battles were fought to gain or lose a few feet of territory, and all because a series of alliances caused one assassination in one unstable area to spiral into a brutal large-scale war fought on the ground by people who mostly had no personal stake in the outcomes and gained nothing from winning.

On some of the worst-hit battlefields, the land is still too toxic for plant growth.

And on the heels of this horrific war, a pandemic struck. It’s often referred to as “the Spanish flu” because Spain was neutral in the war, and so was the first country to admit that their people were dropping like flies. By the time the warring countries were willing to face the disease, it was far too late to contain it.

Anywhere from 50 to 100 million people worldwide would die from it. 675,000 were in the US.

But once it was finally contained – anywhere from a year to a year and a half later – the 20s had begun, and they began roaring.

Hedonism abounded. Alcohol flowed like water in spite of Prohibition. Music and dance and art fluorished. It was the age of Dadaism, an artistic movement of surrealism, absurdism, and abstraction. Women’s skirts rose and haircuts shortened in a flamboyant rejection of the social norms of the previous decades. It was a time of glitter and glamour and jazz and flash, and (save for the art that was made) it was mostly skin deep.

Everyone stumbled out of the war and pandemic desperate to forget the horrific things they’d seen and done and all that they’d lost, and lost for nothing.

Reality seemed so pointless. It’s not a coincidence that the two codifiers of the fantasy genre – J.R.R. Tolkein and C.S. Lewis – both fought in WWI. In fact, they were school friends before the war, and were the only two of their group to return home. Tolkein wanted to rewrite the history of Europe, while Lewis wanted to rebuild faith in the escape from the world.

(There’s a reason Frodo goes into the West: physically, he returned to the Shire, but mentally, he never came back from Mordor, and he couldn’t live his whole life there. There’s a reason three of the Pevensies can never let go of Narnia: in Narnia, unlike reality, the things they did and fought for and believed in actually mattered, were actually worth the price they paid.)

It’s also no coincidence that many of the famous artists of the time either killed themselves outright or let their vices do them in. The 20s roared both in spite of and because of the despair of the Lost Generation.

It was also the era of the Harlem Renaissance, which came to the feelings of alienation and disillusionment from a different direction: there was a large migration of Black people from the South, many of whom moved to the Harlem neighborhood of New York City. Obviously, the sense of alienation wasn’t new to Black people in America, but the cultural shift allowed for them to publicly express it in the arts and literature in ways that hadn’t been open to them before.

There was also horrific – and state-sanctioned – violence perpetrated against Black communities in this time, furthering the anger and despair and sense that society had not only failed them but had never even given them a chance. The term at the time was shell-shock, but now we know it as PTSD, and the vast majority of the people who came of age between 1910 and 1920 suffered from it, from one source or another.

It was an entire generation of trauma, and then the stock market crashed in 1929. Helpless, angry, impotent in the face of all that had seemingly destroyed the world for them, on the verge of utter despair, it was also a generation vulnerable to despotism. In the wake of all this chaos – god, please, someone just take control of all this mess and set it right.

Sometimes the person who took over was decent and played by the rules and at least attempted to do the right thing. Other times, they were self-serving and hateful and committed to subjugating anyone who didn’t fit their mold.

There are a lot of parallels to now, but we have something they didn’t, and that’s the fact that they did it first.

We know what their mistakes and sins were. We have the gift of history to see the whole picture and what worked and what failed. We as a species have walked this road before, and we weren’t any happier or stronger or smarter about it the first time.

I think I want to reiterate that point: the Lost Generation were no stronger or weaker than Millennials and Gen Z are today. Plenty of both have risen up and fought back, and plenty have stumbled and been crushed under the weight. Plenty have been horribly abused by the people who were supposed to lead them, and plenty have done the abusing. Plenty of great art has been made by both, and plenty of it is escapist fantasy or scathing criticism or inspiring optimism or despairing pessimism.

We find humor in much the same things, because when reality is a mess, both the absurd and the self-deprecating become hilarious in comparison. There’s a reason modern audiences don’t find Seinfeld as funny as Gen X does, and many older audiences find modern comedy impenetrable and baffling – they’re different kinds of humor from different realities.

I think my point accumulates into this: in spite of how awful and hopeless and pointless everything feels, we do have a guide. We’ve been through this before, as a culture, and even though all of them are gone now, we have their words and art and memory to help us. We know now what they didn’t then: there is a future.

The path forward is a hard one, and the only thing that makes it easier is human connection. Art – in the most base sense, anything that is an expression of emotion and thought into a medium that allows it to be shared – is the best and most enduring vehicle for that connection, to reach not just loved ones but people a thousand miles or a hundred years away.

So don’t bottle it up. Don’t pretend to be okay when you’re not. Paint it, sculpt it, write it, play it, sing it, scream it, hell, you can even meme it out into the void. Whatever it takes to reach someone else – not just for yourself but for others, both present and future.

Because, to quote the inimitable Terry Pratchett, “in a hundred years we’ll all be dead, but here and now, we are alive.”